Adoption & Happy Birthday's

Today is my birth-mother's birthday. Happy Birthday Debby! I hope it is a blessed and wonderful one.

Debby and I met in person about 15 years ago. It was a strange process for me to decide to find her and then finding her and meeting her. (I should blog on that whole thing another time.) We keep in touch - but not as much as we should. It has been a wonderful experience finding her and getting to know her and more about my birth family. I was also able to meet much of Debby's family - including my birth-grandmother - before she (birth-grandmother) passed away.

On that note - here is a poem that I found growing up and always felt that it described my situation perfectly. I shared this with Debby when I met her. And each time I read it -- it still brings tears to my eyes.


Legacy of an Adopted Child
Once there were two women who never knew each other.
One you do not remember, the other you call mother.
Two different lives, shaped to make your one...
One became your guiding star, the other became your sun.

The first gave you life and the second taught you to live it.
The first gave you a need for love, and the second was there to give it.
One gave you a nationality, the other gave you a name.
One gave you a seed of talent, the other gave you an aim.
One gave you emotions, the other calmed your fears.
One saw your first sweet smile, the other dried your tears.
One gave you up...it was all that she could do.
The other prayed for a child and God led her striaght to you.

And now you ask me, through your fears,
the age old question unanswered throughout the years...
Heredity or environment...which are you the product of?
Neither, my darling, neither...
Just two different kinds of love.

--Author Unknown--